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 I give up
usagal
Posted: Aug 28 2011, 03:10 PM


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QUOTE (girliegokumanda @ Aug 14 2011, 09:02 PM)
Pfft! People who do that are cowards! Utter cowards i tell ye!

Couldn't agree more that cowardice abounds in this media. I don't call them cowards, though. Everyone has a little bit of every type of character in them, light and dark, good and bad :starwars: Including me. I hope my desired character comes across, but there is soooo much lacking in cyberspace. Not to mention, I am no teckie, so if my system, or theirs, or yours does something to cut off a message, nothing sends me through the roof faster. Grrrrr....to the max, cuz I spend a lot of effort to try to convey a message with consideration. So, I'm sorry you have had bad experiences. I'm sorry I've had bad experiences. I'm sorry all of you have had bad experiences. Okay, now I'm going to beat my empath back a bit, before somebody else beats me up too bad.
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usagal
Posted: Aug 28 2011, 03:24 PM


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QUOTE (Quizme @ May 30 2010, 01:14 AM)
Damn. And i thought being ignored only happened to me. Guess I was wrong.

I grew up with four older brothers, and 3 older male cousins. My mother made no secret of the fact that she preferred boy children. I KNOW what it is to be ignored. I am also glad to hear I am not alone. At 46, you would think I would have gotten over it by now. Always making progress, though. Patience, just call me Patience. I aspire to be Grace. :)
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usagal
Posted: Aug 31 2011, 06:05 PM


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QUOTE (cijay @ May 16 2010, 03:54 AM)
I just fucking give up. People stop talking and e-mailing and texting and they never tell me why.

I'm going to be a closed mouthed fucking hermetess for the rest of my fucking life.

/rant

Sorry I didn't say this specific type of thing earlier, but don't you think such conduct is now, unfortunately, a part of our culture? It's VERY unfortunate, and I believe it's called "insecurity". Courtesy is afforded only to the brave. Pat yourself on the back for being different, and try not to do as you see others do. I will be working on the same. I appreciate your rant.
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dawn2dusk
Posted: Feb 21 2012, 04:08 AM


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I don't know if you are checking your posts anymore, or if this is so far in the past that it doesn't matter. Your post struck a cord, and so I felt that I wanted to respond. I had someone that I thought was very unique and special in my life. We had one disagreement, over something relatively minor, and she stopped talking to me, texting me, etc. We had talked everyday for months up to that point. I think sometimes physical distance and electronic communication gives a false sense of emotional distance so that people can be treated as though they were disposable. It was hard to move on from, because I do not open up to people very easily, and if I do it's with great care and discernment. I think your experience is universal, and perhaps a growing trend these days. On the other hand, I don't believe that the past creates the future.

Hope things have gotten better and your trust in others restored.

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cijay
Posted: Feb 26 2012, 02:01 AM


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Yes, it was a long time ago to be sure. I'm glad you recognised the date 'coz I've pretty much been immortalised by this post LOL.

Trust is a very hard thing to get from me, that's for sure but I'm doing much better now, thanks.
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Goanna
Posted: Feb 26 2012, 02:25 AM


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lol You really have been immortalised by this post, haven't you cijay!
Still, it's a good reminder to us all, that things usually improve. :-)
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dawn2dusk
Posted: Feb 26 2012, 07:24 AM


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Cijay, I'm glad you're doing better :).

Also glad to see you are still around. Doesn't look like there are many long term folks in here.

Just want to say I have enjoyed your posts.

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cijay
Posted: Apr 12 2012, 02:48 PM


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I should check this more often. Yes, I'm doing better, I was doing better shortly after I wrote that first post. It was just written 'in the moment'. While it continued to happen (gutless people just dropping me) it didn't bug me as much as it did at that moment.

And ... I have met someone since and as a matter of fact met her through this site. We agree on many things and totally disagree on many things and that's okay with both of us.
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Hermathena
Posted: May 14 2012, 08:54 PM


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Reading this topic I feel the deep need to apologise. :o I am one of the people who generally leave people hanging...both in real life and in forums. I am really sorry for doing that :( but...thing is what happens is that.......one moment everything is ok...flowers blooming and...the next moment...I feel the need to run. I just dont know how to even say goodbye.... and I dont even know why i feel the need to run. It could be to protect myself I guess...or maybe even protect the others from my bad self.
What I want to make clear here is ...that in no case its the other persons fault for me dropping them. It is always my default and my inadequacy to deal with certains things.
So please... please dont ever feel sad for being dropped ....Its normal to feel angry, frustrated...most of all lucky, after all you just got freed from socialising with an unstable person ;) ...but never sad.
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