I give up

I just fucking give up. People stop talking and e-mailing and texting and they never tell me why.

I'm going to be a closed mouthed fucking hermetess for the rest of my fucking life.

/rant

Yuk. That's hard. People can be so clueless.

But ... I'm sorry ... you can't be a closed mouth fucking hermetess ... rather be a close mouthed fuckless hermetess. :rolleyes:

Cathy

Okay, I'll be a fuckless one then. Just as well because even if I DID want to fuck, she'd probably let me take my clothes off, then say 'don't do anything 'til I come back', then she'd fuck off and leave me standing there naked. Not say good-bye, not tell me why she isn't coming back, nothing.

This <3 is closed for repairs.

Damn. And i thought being ignored only happened to me. Guess I was wrong.

i feel being a hermit every now and then is a good thing. sometimes i'm surprised just how much i enjoy my own company. go to the library and checkout a new book, grab a new cd at the mall, or catch a new movie at the theatre. it'll get you outta the house and who knows, you might just run into some friendly strangers on the way. and when you do make it back home you could get cozy by a window and read or dance your little heart out to some new jams.

some people will make you feel like you're not needed and i know how much that hurts. take a break from giving them so much attention every once in a while. maybe they'll appreciate your kindness while your away doing your own thing ;)

I can so relate. You aren't the only one.

There are always going to be people who look to take the easy way out, or who were never really in it for the right *or same* reasons to begin with. But I can say, coming from the position of needing to end communications, that lots of people don't take it well when I tell them my reasons either. They tend to over-personalise and get all defensive-reactive and sometimes abusive. It all depends on their ego strength versus fragility. So maybe that's what some people are afraid of. They don't know how you'd react, so just avoid it all together. It can be hurtful if you were seriously invested in any way, or even on the grounds of just courteous behaviour. Unfortunately modern communication technologies make it even easier for people to disrespect others. Seventy percent of cues are absent from online interaction, so it's always going to be a bit of a gamble. But like playing the lottery, we usually keep doing it, just on the off-chance that we do stumble upon someone we can really relate to, and who is equally committed. A time-out after a few spontaneous disappearances can help though. Are you back on the horse now?

Pfft! People who do that are cowards! Utter cowards i tell ye!

With guarded optimism.

Well, hang in there cijay. Like I said, it's like playing the lottery. You might get a few bad experiences in a row, but good ones can also turn up. And if you stop 'playing the game', you'll never get to them. At least you'll have something to compare them with now, hey? :-)
What can be helpful here, is to read some of the examples in life-coaching books of how many times various people tried and failed before having AMAZING success.
It could be that your ex-correspondents had too much on their plate or something. Yes, cowardly, but it may've had very little to do with you in reality. There's someone better in your future. One day you'll count your lucky stars that those people set you free to find them.

Thanks. Yes, eventually I may trust again but it'll be after I figure there's actually something to be gained. I'm not really desperate FOR a life partner, would just be nice and the least they could do was tell me why they quit writing/calling. Generally it's because they met someone else...which is fine but just tell me.

You're right. They should tell you.
Did you tell them this?

*SHrug* I don't remember - it was 18mos ago but after asking if they were going to ever write back again and them not answering me, what more do they deserve?

Ah I see. Well, sounds like you've indicated your expectations already. They answered with their lack of reply. Best to forget them now and move on as best you can.

LOL oh very much so. As I said, it was 18mos ago. Moved on and on and on and on from them. Just not ready to trust anyone again. I've had trust issues all my life.