Foster Parents

SPLIT FROM HERE

Foster care? You mean putting a child with people that love the child for a few years, get tired of her, ignore her, get sick of her trying to get their attention, and start hitting her?

...

Two of my best friends were adopted. They had a great family, and grew up to be perfectly well-adjusted people. Not every human being on Earth is that callous...

EDIT: Quiet you, I never forget words.

This post has been edited by Big McStrongmuscle on Apr 8 2005, 11:55 PM

Not always. But a lot of people that want children aren't ready to handle the responsibility, and as their stress grows so does, "This is not my child. I don't have to love it."

Do you have any evidence that foster care is any worse than staying with biological parents? Anectotal evidence does not count.

It's not necessarily worse. Case by case. But you're more likely to mistreat someone that isn't family than someone that is.

Do you have any evidence for THAT?

That's common sense, GJ. You don't need evidence for common sense.

It's common sense assuming the parents can have kids. If not it's about the same as normal. At least thats what I've seen.

Yes you do. You make an assertation, you either prove it or make it clear that it's not solid.

Do you have any evidence for that?

And here I coulda sworn you'd mentioned a sibling somewheres...

I don't think it's so much the biological relation (though I'm sure it plays a part) as the emotional attachment and involvement, though. Biology helps at first, but after awhile you start to get attached to the people around you. And personally, I would think foster parents would have fewer problems, having decided in advance they they want a child and being more prepared for the event...

EDIT: The Grammar Nazi strikes back!

This post has been edited by Big McStrongmuscle on Apr 9 2005, 12:07 AM

It helps you get emotionally attached, however, to see the fruit of your loins born in front of your eyes. To carry a child for nine months, and to deliver it into the world. Or to watch a child develop, and see someone you love bring your baby into the world. That is a powerful emotional bond that is difficult to compare to.

Do you have ANY EVIDENCE about any of this? Or is it all just gut instinct? If it's the latter, PLEASE refer to it as such, and not try to pass it off as fact...

EDIT: to Terra:
Good point... I'd be fairly interested in seeing a few statistics about this actually...It isn't really something I know that many hard numbers about, and I could see the numbers going either way.

EDIT: And I think it's pretty plain that this isn't backed up in any way by hard data...

This post has been edited by Big McStrongmuscle on Apr 9 2005, 12:15 AM

I can tell you stepdads go balistic, but I'm not sure about fosters.

Think of foster families as being raised by not one, but two stepparents.

It's two stepparents who chose to adopt the kid, though. That might change a good number of attitudes...

But neither one of them just wants to hit on the other.

That's the problem. The stepdad dosn't want the baggage, just the traveler.

Baron'd

This post has been edited by Robotech Master on Apr 9 2005, 12:17 AM

Adoption doesn't have quite the bond. This isn't a life that you and your partner brought into the world. This is a life you gave people money to take care of. That's...quite a bit different.

Read last post. You have to go through some hoops to get a adoption.

This post has been edited by Robotech Master on Apr 9 2005, 12:20 AM