Girls and the intarweb, OMG BOOBIES!

Who doesn't have friends outside of the forum, I'm not calling you pathetic. But if you look at how late I normally post, then think how many shows I must really do? I always look at ease in front of others and I have met the assholes, but I am never at ease....... If I were at ease it would be easy, it's not....

Also If I post anytime between 8 and 10 tomorrow, yell at me.,

I find that amazing...It's like you're describing me.
However, shyness aside, my problem with meeting people is two-fold:
Firstly, I never know what to talk about. This is due to the fact that when you get me on any given topic, it's damned hard to shut me up without the use of excessive force.

Secondly, I have the attention span of...Hey, what's that over there?

What was I saying again?

RTM-- heh heh heh. *grinn*
maybe 'cause I don't wanna' go to brazil to learn it? *noogies* Although if it's the one that break dancing came from... ha ha, no...Geez, my breasts would disappear from acquiring that kind of upper-body muscle mass... I think we have a few practioners around here, though...

don't you mean ex-girlfriend? The one that messed up your car and shit?

Luppy-- Hmm, it's not too hard for me to pick up accquaintences... not among my friends' friends.
I just don't want to, ninety-nine times out of 100. Unless I ''click'' with someone, am at ease with them, I usually feel no compulsion to take it any further.
irl friends are a big investment of time and emotion with me, I've found I'm not really comfortable trying to juggle more than three good friends...

I guess I'm just a little lonely right now because they're all busy with work and school...
in fact, my best friend might be moving to Vancouver Island come the new year... it's not a sure thing, but dammit, it sucks...

I rarely get to see him as it is, although I've been trying hard to see him at least once a week lately, because with my new job starting soon, I want to get in as much time as I can...
anyway, back to semi-OTness...

I'm STILL struggling with my sexuality, and I don't like it. Mostly I just don't think about it... have no real reason to, unless I see a girl so beautiful she just makes my hair stand on end...

Also, I'm not mentally healthy. But I've come a long way in the past two years...

as for being afraid of people, it goes in and out. Sometimes I just cordon that part of my mind off and don't allow it out. Again, I've come a long way. This Hallowe'en I went to a party with my best friend and his girlfriend, and I didn't know anyone there particularly well, although I knew two or three people in passing. Anyway, I had a better time than they did....

It used to be you couldn't get me near strangers or semi-strangers without me clinging onto my closest friend(s) in the room like a limpet and not saying a damn word.

Now the worst I usually do is unleashing a shit load of sarcasm and not-making nice-nice when I'm put really ill at ease.

and I mean REALLY ill at ease. At the second night of a friend's house warming party, a guy I really dislike showed up, but I gave him the benefit of the doubt. Except he was drunk. And horribly disrespectful. And wanted to smoke pot when he had already been warned that smoking wasn't allowed. And stuff... anyway, no one was comfortable in that situation. The turd even tried to pick a fight and threatened the host. I wanted to beat the shit out of the guy because I don't take people talking smack to a friend, let alone my best friend, in HIS OWN HOME like that...
In case anyone was wondering, this was the same "Oh, you're pretty good at that, gamer girls are rare, huh?" dick.

Also, why do we need to yell at you, Luppy?

Umm...

<.< >.>

*raises hand*

I've got some local aquaintances, but no real friends.

I have two from high school, but that's about it, and we're growing apart...

I have three but I'm seeing less and less of one every month.

EDIT: OH! Friends, I thought you meant good friends, I have about 10.

This post has been edited by Robotech Master on Nov 12 2005, 12:38 AM

ok pick a hangout (comic shops work well) or take a class or domething.... you get at least 4 by default...

No such shops around yo.

I always feel uncomfortable going into those shops, because there is NEVER another female there... O_o

...Wait Mordy is a girl...thats news to me. *shot*

This post has been edited by Dark Hawk on Nov 12 2005, 04:10 AM

I think that this is part of what Luppy was talking about; you have to work to maintain a friendship.

if you just let friendships drift in and out, you'll slowly have less and less as you get out of practice and become more reclusive.

the advantage that jocks have is that they regularly get together with a group of people that they know, do something as a group out where everybody can see, and interact with another, similar group while doing so.

since "nerdy" activities tend to be indoor things, or with small groups and without spectators, it's harder.

Now, in some Asian countries videogames are played in tournaments that are as big over there as sports are over here, but things are different here. If you want to try something like that, you'll have to organize it yourself with your local public broadcast channel or something.

Thank you newb.

That was well, part of it.... We avoid contact more and more with the outside world by creating this shell of geekery and that seperates us from everyone else, and because it makes us smile for a little bit, it makes us forget the wonders of human interactiiuon, and we not only lose the friends we have as they move on, but then miss every opertunity to make new ones.....

That's a little harsh. Sometimes this 'shell of geekery' gets people used to acting more openly, so that they're not crippled by fear of talking to new people in the real world. I know it's helped me some...

I know that for me, personally, I used to avoid people who made fun of me by burrowing into whatever book I was reading that day, which resulted in a feedback loop that left me ignoring the outside world.

One day a teacher got fed up that I was reading all the time and took my book away, and so the next time that someone made a jab at me, I didn't have a shell to crawl into, so I made another jab back, and found that after that they eased up.

This person then became one of my best friends, and is still my best friend today.

I think that paying attention to what I was wearing helped some too.

I used to just grab something completely at random, which does not work with an eclectic wardrobe. I still grab stuff at random, but nowadays I have to follow a dresscode, so the most I have to worry about is my tie clashing with my shirt if both have a pattern.

it's like that Dido song, "Life for Rent"; if you don't make an investment, you can't expect to get any payout, and if you do, you should be ecstatic rather than complaining that it's too small.

at least my point got through to at least one person, who already kinda got it...... I'M A FAILURE AS A MOTIVATIONAL SPEAKER!!!!!!!!!!!


at this rate i'll be Living in a van down by the river......

Well I haven't been able to keep in touch with most of my high school friends after the transition to college. There's one friend that I have known since middle school and kept in touch with him all through high school, but now he's up in New York, so I can't really see him much anymore. May be able to see him sometime around Christmas, assuming he comes back for Christmas Break...

Anyway, as far as friends on campus go, I'm quite familiar with the guys on my dorm floor by now, and I'm starting to get to know people in the SFS (Science Fiction Society, basically the campus' Sci-fi club) too. I'm not too fond of going out just for the sake of meeting new people, but if I meet them through doing something else, it's never turned out to be that much of a problem for me.

I didn't know anybody here was female, but it never really occured to me. I figure everyone is like me, Kodzilla, an A-sexual deviant of mankind.



I have friends... like... six only though. I actually had more friends when I went to Australia, but since I've left school I've made sure to split apart from people. If I count people I see just twice a month, it'd be like maybe twenty tops.

I think the "no gurlz on teh Intarnets" thing arises mostly because of the young or immature nature of many of the guys online. Seriously, other than here or maybe a few other places around, I mostly see that conversation going like this:

1337GamerChick: Last frag's mine! GG, guys, GG.
Vegeata666: dewd ur a chick?
Vegeata666: r u hott?
Vegeata666: a/s/l
Vegeata666: a/s/l
Vegeata666: a/s/l
1337GamerChick: Umm...yeah.
Vegeata666: a/s/l
Vegeata666: a/s/l
Vegeata666: a/s/l
Vegeata666: and pikkies!
1337GamerChick: Jesus H. Christ on a pogo stick! Get back in the box! Down! Down!

Speaking as a guy who at least likes to pretend he knows the mindsets of both genders fairly well, (Three sisters and a lot of female friends can do that) I could understand the male reaction, especially given that most of the fokuls responsible for these shenanigans are middle school to high school boys who don't get out a lot, but I sure as hell can understand why a sensible geekette would elect to hide under a secret identity...The attention might be entertaining at first, but there's no way anyone would willingly deal with that crap for more than a week or so. Were I in the same position, damn straight I'd keep an alterego or three around. As for guys masquerading as girls, I think instant acceptance and the glee of pulling the wool over the collective eyes of a whole community is a powerful draw. Makes 'em feel like a slightly bigger man for awhile. I'll leave the deeper analysis of that one to the psychiatrists, though...

For myself, I've always found it easier not to worry too much about the gender of the person on the other end of the phone line. Only one who's ever shocked me that way was GJ, and that only cause I thought she was a man for over a year...

Having three sisters never helped me too much

Granted, my youngest sister is in her 30's and the oldest is in her early 40's (married before I was even born), so they've all been more like aunts to me anyway

Still, what you say seems to make sense, so I'll take your word for it...

Mine are all younger. You watch 'em as they age after being there yourself, and things start to make a lot more sense.