Hey, Somewhere, I do not know where but heard the birds and the bees and upon hearing that it got stuck in my mind. So much so I got to singing in my mind the tune "Let me telll you about the birds and the bees and the flowers in the trees".....I caught myself so many times humming it.
But I got to thinking about the birds and the bees. It is usually in reference with how parents come to educate their children in sex education.
Now let me say, I do not have any children of my own. But I've heard parents say if you don't have any children then you don't have any right to say anything about the birds and the bees. I do not doubt that somethngs are very difficult to talk to your children about, even to the point of embarrasment The many feelings we experience can keep us back from teaching our children in all areas of life.
I'll say, perhaps just in sharing my thoughts. What if parents would let those uneasy talks with their children go. Then just walk in the fear of the Lord and what needs to be shown then show it, and what needs to be taught then teach it.
I know there are God fearing folks who do walk in the paths of the Lord toward their children. Being adults we should be able to talk about adult things openly and in maturity.
I can't help but wonder just how many children leave their parents home not knowing what adultery is as I've known such a person. Having no knowledge this person got married and slept with a couple people during their marriage All the while they hadn't a clue they had committed adultery on their spouse. This person did come to know the Lord and his Word.
Can't help but ask should the "Talk" include sexual sins as well with definitions of what each of them are. Incest among relatives, fornication, adultery, or is it just practice safe sex, be careful, don't get married because once you do you will be legally responsible so just move in together, shack up. get around the law, (even preachers I have heard suggest and encourages living or co-habitating together) outside the law etc., Sex is only to be with one man and one women, within the confines of holy matrimony.
Shouldn't the "Talk" be more than once ?
What is your take on the birds and bees talk ?
I just wanted to know what the birds and the bees entails in the "talk" ?I
For my 4 children it was a factual account of what is/is going to happen to your body as you get older and all questions answered openly and honestly . At the same time I was VERY clear that this is a gift from God to be cherished and not thrown away ... I remember having an old battered library book abd a brand new copy of the same book and asking the children which one they would prefer to have as a gift ...one that they could open and smell the " new book smell " and turn crisp new pages and read clear writing or the one that was falling apart and had some very dodgy stains on it and had a nasty smell as well as lots of graffitti.
For me and my kids, there was never "a talk" - it was rather a process starting from their first questions. I was always open with them and they knew they could ask me anything so right from when they were very young and asking where did babies come from I answered with as much or as little detail as the question warranted. Sometimes they would be happy with just a simple answer, sometimes it would lead into a discussion. Sexual morality wasn't a special subject in itself - just general morality and what we believed as Christians which influenced every area of our lives.
|=Northern Lass,May 6 2011, 02:10 AM|
|For me and my kids, there was never "a talk" -it was rather a process starting from their first questions. I was always open with them and they knew they could ask me anything so right from when they were very young and asking where did babies come from I answered with as much or as little detail as the question warranted. Sometimes they would be happy with just a simple answer, sometimes it would lead into a discussion.|
|Sexual morality wasn't a special subject in itself - |
- just general morality and what we believed as Christians which influenced every area of our lives.
I can see it is more of a process than just a "Talk" in the way you've described and pointed out in your experience. After reading and giving thought to your post I realize that "sexual morality" really shouldn't be taught as a special subject.
As parents it should be "general morality" in what you believe as believers that influences all areas of our lives. We teach sex is a gift from God that comes with responsibility to be within the confines of marriage between one man and one women. Our sexuality is to always be cherished and protected within the marriage bed which is not defiled.
Guess as believers this should be our guidance the innocence, the purity, the gift of God in marriage.
I notice that sexual immorality is that which is done outside of marriage. Although I am not a parent I think that all I could do is to teach and guide my children in the truth which would be all that could be done by me other than prayer.
It becomes the young adults responsibility to walk in the paths of the Lord in fear. The young adults have to choose for themselves to keep their sexuality within the confines of marriage set forth by God or to choose to walk in sexual immorality outside of the marriage bed..
Hope you can understand and that I'm not jumbled in my thoughts