Vanishing For A Bit.

I don't know how many of you will really notice if I vanished for a bit, but I thought I'd mention it anyway.

I've been put into a position where I've had to choose between my hobby and my relationship and obviously my relationship is far more important. I don't actually have to do this but to prove a point I'm putting away all my models (even the new Necrons), all my books and basically cutting off all ties to Warhammer I have for now. Will it be a few days, a week, a month? I dunno. As long as it takes to nail the point home.

So yea, I'll be back. Sometime.

EDIT: Well, this got sorted out waaay faster than I expected it to. Which is a good thing, duh. Nevermind then

Silly disc, Warhammer is the only relationship you need! (sarcasm if you guys don't pick up on it )

Take care man, come back whenever you can!

It is too bad you didn't find a woman who accepts you for who you are and your hobbies and interests. I feel very lucky at this moment to have someone who accepts me for the old geek that I am...

Asking me to give up my hobbies would = divorce... I would never ask my wife to give up her hobbies to prove a point. Life is just too short.
:/

Shall miss you my friend! Maybe she will accept the geeks that we are for playing this game. Strangely enough my girlfriend finds it cute that I do this 0.o so I do question her sanity sometimes xD but I am lucky nonetheless I suppose. Well good luck hope to see you back on soon!

As I said in the edit, it got worked out really quickly.

It's not the hobby, it's the fact that for whatever reason she felt she was being pushed aside for it. This was ridiculous but I felt I needed to prove that it really wasn't the case. Even she felt this was extreme, so it worked, I made my point. If it wasn't warhammer, I'm sure it'd have been something else.

She actually likes warhammer too, or did before she decided it was causing issues. I'm still gonna lay off it a little more though anyway, hopefully then she'll decide that it's alright again anyway and get back into it herself. She's an amazing painter, it'd suck to see that talent go to waste.

So yea, it's alright now. I do understand why she might have felt like this, she's had an incredibly crap year and so I really don't blame her for seeing ###### where none exists. I'm just glad I have my relationship AND my hobby back.

From what you refer it's a feeling she has(had) and not so the hobby.

Priorities are important in a relationship. And it would not be right if you would place warhammer or any other hobby before your partner.

Good to hear you guys sorted it out.

This.

Look, it doesn't matter if you are a man or a woman, or if your partner is a man or woman, or if it's toy soldiers, football, hiking, or quilting that you are being told to give up.

If your partner doesn't share your interests at least enough to not give you ultimatums, they are not worthy of you.


A piece of advice from a 40 year old man who once thought losing a love when he was a 19 year old boy was the end of the world:

It's not.

It sucks and it's frightening to leave behind what you have without knowing if you'll ever find love again, but love with conditions is not worth having anyway.

Once again. She didn't ask me to give it up. Though reading back it is a bit unclear, I apologise. It wasn't as bad as I made it sound (heat of the moment and all that), but she did feel I had pushed her aside for Warhammer. This wasn't the case and to prove it utterly and completely I had packed up everything to do with the hobby (models, paints, books, THE LOT), and had it ready to go away for a while. Not forever, but a while.

I was making a point. I made it. Seriously, SHE thought I was a bit extreme about it. She never expected me to stop completely and hell I've still been doing a couple of hours painting a night, I just usually make sure that it's definitely and only at a time when she needs the company, and I'm happy with that.

This year she's taken huge steps for me. She declined to go back up North, where her friends and family are, to stay with me. She did this, knowing full well what being in the middle of no where was likely to be like. She's had to find work, she had her college course ruined by a freaking moron who doesn't like "messy" art (cause sending the Art and Design students to our Graphics and Photography course was gonna work out wasn't it?). And to top it all off, the biggest reason amongst them all as to why I was okay not playing toy soldiers for a bit was that not three weeks after moving in with me, she found out the last time she said goodbye to her dad before he went back up north really would the FINAL time she said goodbye. He had a sudden heart attack, and got this lovely news first thing in the morning. That was in February, and as you can imagine she's still finding it hard to deal with. Best of all? I want to help her, but I have no idea what's she's going though (having been lucky enough to never have a family member, not one I was very close to at any rate, die before). You get why I was happy to prove I wasn't pushing her aside for a few pieces of plastic now?

Of course I'm only 19. I don't know better.

(If I sound like you touched a nerve... well yea, you kinda did. I have always defended my girlfriend to the last, I won't see her being demonised and not say anything.)

EDIT: Another case of "Holy passion batman!"

Well I'm glad everything seems to be sorted out then